Take a loan
You need to take a bank loan to hold a real Kazakh wedding (toi) and invite all relatives, friends and colleagues.
Beshbarmak
It is the most crucial and inalienable meal served at any Kazakh toi. Salmon with rice is usually served as the second meal.
Kazakh punctuality
Guests gathering for a couple of hours later than it was mentioned are a common matter. You are welcomed to come by 7 pm even if you were officially invited by 5 pm.
Tamada
Tamada is a suited up master of ceremonies. He’s the one, who conducts games, tells jokes a lot and seems to be a really funny guy.
“Zhar Zhar” wedding song, which is joined by all the guests
By the way, guests tend to know only 2 words which are “Zhar” and “Zhar”.
Toibastar
Toibastar is a gifts distribution tradition. Gifts are usually knickknacks like combs, scarves, ties, souvenirs.
Betasharmen always tunes up his dombyra during the betashar.
Although he could do it before.
Long-lasting toasts
Old ladies (apashkas) and men (atashkas) tend to say toasts, which last up to 30 minutes. Then they bless newlyweds (give “bata”) and finally sing acappela song with 14 verses.
Toi songs
There are TOP 3 toi songs, which are "Aspangā қaraimyn", "Mary Magdalena" and "Kyzyl orіk". These are songs that have unthinkable power over people, even super-modern and sophisticated people dance for them.
Old ladies always demand to turn music down
…though all of them like TOP 3 toi songs to be loud.
85% of guests have fun, while the rest are clearly upset
They are usually not satisfied with the sit they were given at the table or a wrong turn while giving a toast.
Talented children and a plate for money
Kazakh talented children sing or dance at the wedding parties, while practical adults put a plate for money next to them.
A plenty of traditions and ceremonies
One of them is "Kalta" — women sit around the table and divide jewelry amongst themselves, while the males leave the room for a smoke break.
Sarkyt
People picking food and waiters distributing cellophane packages mean that the party is to end soon.
After party tea
After a wedding party Kazakhs can stay and drink tea at a separate table, discussing the party.
Old men (atashkas) play cards at breaks
When a tamada announces a short break, atashkas gather together and play cards. They usually play a game called “Fool” either outside the restaurant or in the corridor.
